Me? I was different. I, sure as Hell, knew what I was doing. Given that I don't believe in Hell, you know that means I didn't really know what the Hell I was doing either! ;-) (As I've mentioned, my first marriage didn't last.)
Many marriages, especially in the Christian world, appear to be an act of free will. I live in the U.S.A., and, as much as anyone does, I chose my first wife. And I chose poorly. (Of course, it does take two to tango, so she was quite foolish to choose me as well!)
But wait a minute. Did I choose my wife? Matthew 19:6/Mark 10:9 both say:
"Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."
Oh, so it wasn't me who chose my spouse poorly, but rather God. But wait again! God can't choose poorly. Duh!
Now if you are foolish enough to get divorced from God's chosen companion for you, like me, you may find yourself thinking:
Hey, God made one marriage happen. Why not let God make another one! After all, per 1 John 4:8, "[w]hoever does not love does not know God, because God is love." So what could be wrong with more love?
Wrong! If you have divorced, you should consider yourself in divorce limbo for the rest of your life, where the only person you can marry would be your ex-wife, unless she has been with another man. Even if you feel the urge to marry someone else, you will be committing adultery if you do so (Matthew 19:9).
Of course, there is nothing different in the desire to marry another spouse after a divorce, other than (hopefully) a little more wisdom. Yet given that
Well, I married again. And not only did I marry again, but I married a divorced woman, which is explicitly forbidden by Jesus (Matthew 5:32/Luke 16:18). Oh, the shame.
Anyway, I've got to tell you, I think I did a much better job picking out my second wife than God did with the first one. ;-) This is true love. Yup! We atheists have found God! At least if you buy into the whole love = God thing...